Mel Whyatt Articles

Reflections from the waiting room

Reflections from the waiting room

For all those living with cancer or the possibility of its return… I’m awaiting the results of my final annual cancer check-up and I sense myself slipping into my mind’s waiting room, the space between ‘got cancer’ and ‘haven’t got cancer’, my earthly purgatory....

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Try a little tenderness

Try a little tenderness

Compassion is essential for the survival of our species. So why are we so reluctant to be compassionate with ourselves? Counsellors often talk about the importance of self-compassion, of being kind to yourself. Many of us struggle on through life encumbered by a...

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The Seven Ages of Loneliness

The Seven Ages of Loneliness

  When have you felt lonely? Standing with leaden feet in a primary school playground while watching the other kids form companionable little friendships. Trying very hard not to look like you care as you fail to be selected for the team. Keeping a low profile so...

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What my depression taught me

What my depression taught me

Depression is a deeply painful experience so no wonder we want to fix it. But sometimes, maybe it helps to understand why it seems to slow us down and confine our attention to our troubled self.

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What your emotions are trying to tell you

What your emotions are trying to tell you

Our emotions can help us understand and care for ourselves if we care to listen to what they're telling us.  There was a time in my life when I tried to deny I had any emotions. To ‘be emotional’ was to be ‘weak’ and to express my feelings, a sign of weakness.  As a...

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Opening for in-person counselling

Opening for in-person counselling

From the end of October, I will be re-opening my therapy room for clients who prefer counselling sessions to be delivered in-person. I expect that most of my clients will continue to prefer the convenience and cost benefits of working either via Zoom or telephone. But...

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How counselling helps us to change

How counselling helps us to change

Change in counselling comes about when we thoroughly accept who we are.  One of the things I enjoy about this time of year is noticing the change of colour of the deciduous hedge that borders the park opposite my home. As I look out of my kitchen window each morning,...

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How to get the best out of counselling

How to get the best out of counselling

  Thinking of getting some counselling? Here's what I’ve learned from years of being a client… I’ve turned to counsellors for support throughout my life. It’s one of the reasons I work as a counsellor today and I will continue to seek therapy if I’m struggling....

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Why I’m proud to be The Wolverhampton Counsellor

Why I’m proud to be The Wolverhampton Counsellor

How the pandemic helped me to love the place I call home.  One of the things I most missed during the first lockdown of the pandemic was the feeling of ‘coming home’. As far as I know, there isn’t a word for it, but perhaps there should be. It’s such a distinctive,...

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